Overview
Romance scams cost victims more money per incident than almost any other type of fraud, with reported losses exceeding $1.3 billion annually in the United States alone. Scammers create fake profiles on dating apps and social media platforms, building deep emotional connections over weeks or months before requesting money. Victims span all ages but seniors are disproportionately targeted. These scams cause devastating financial and emotional harm, and many victims are too embarrassed to report them.
How This Scam Works
Scammers create attractive profiles using stolen photos and fabricated backstories, often posing as military personnel, doctors, or overseas business professionals.
They build trust through daily messages, phone calls, and sometimes video chats using deepfake technology, creating a sense of intimacy over weeks or months.
Once emotional attachment is established, they introduce a crisis requiring money, such as a medical emergency, travel costs, or business problem.
Requests start small but escalate, with scammers using guilt, love, and emotional manipulation to extract increasingly larger sums.
Some scammers involve victims in money laundering by asking them to receive and forward money, making the victim an unwitting accomplice.
Warning Signs
Real Scam Examples
These are examples of messages used in this type of scam. Recognizing the patterns helps you stay safe.
"I've never felt this way about anyone before. Even though we haven't met, I know you're my soulmate. I think about you every moment of every day. I want to spend the rest of my life with you."
"My darling, I'm so embarrassed to ask but I've had a medical emergency and I'm stuck in the hospital overseas. I need $3,000 for the surgery or they won't treat me. You're the only one I trust. I'll pay you back as soon as I'm home."
"I've booked my flight to come see you! But customs is holding my luggage and demanding a $5,000 clearance fee. If you can help me with this, I'll be in your arms by tomorrow. I promise to pay everything back."
How to Protect Yourself
1Reverse image search profile photos
Copy their profile photo and search it on Google Images or TinEye. Scammers typically steal photos from other social media accounts or stock photo sites.
2Never send money to someone you have not met in person
No matter how strong your feelings are, never send money to someone you have only interacted with online. Real partners do not ask for money before meeting.
3Be wary of excuses to avoid video calls
If someone always has an excuse for why they cannot video chat, be suspicious. Ask for a live video call where they perform a specific action to verify their identity.
4Talk to trusted friends and family
Share the relationship details with people you trust. Scammers isolate victims and discourage them from discussing the relationship with others.
5Watch for love bombing
Be cautious of someone who declares love very quickly or pushes the relationship forward faster than feels natural. This is a common manipulation tactic.
6Keep communication on the platform
Dating platforms have safety features and moderation. Scammers push to move conversations to personal email or messaging apps to avoid detection.
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